About Me

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Hi, my name is Iris Argeband.

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I am a certified therapist in Biosynthesis - Integrative Somatic Psychotherapy.

I specialize in adults and couples therapy.

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I am a mother of 3 adult sons, practice Kundalini Yoga and I love the sea.

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I lived in England for many years and I was exposed to multiple cultures with a wide range of life perspective, emotional expression, movement and relationships.

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I believe life to be work in process so I find myself continually exploring, experiencing, receiving inspiration and deepening my knowledge as I tap into the deep wisdom inside and around me.

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Mindfullness studies, Yoga practicing, Couple therapy, Specializing in The Poly Vagal theory by Prof Stephen Porges, Trauma therapy by Bessel Van der Kolk, Addiction treatment inspired by Gabor Mate, Supervision and extensive reading guide and illuminate my therapy.

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I wholeheartedly believe that every person has the potential for healing. I have faith in the journey and in the encounter.

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As a therapist in witness in the process, my intentionality is to enable a safe environment which is non- judgemental together with compassion, acceptance and validation to all the feelings that come up. As we are present and listen with open heart, the individual takes an active role in the process of his healing. Jointly we explore the purpose of therapy to find out what is the core need.

 

My therapeutic direction is  Top Down Approach-  ie  Together in our connection we put together words and meaning as we raise awareness to the sensations, feelings, actions and paradigms.

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An example- Why am I feeling sadness or fear or anger or helplessness? What unfulfilled needs is present ? Where is it familiar to me ? Which limiting belief took hold when my need was not fulfilled or my feeling was not expressed?

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Together with Bottom Up Approach- ie deep listening to my somatic sensation that give up an authentic picture of my feelings.  An example- Fear can be manifested in the body by racing heart beats, shallow breathing, perspiration, a sense of alertness and contraction.

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Peacefulness is manifested by a sense of expansion, deep slow breaths and a general relaxation sensation.

 

As we become conscious of the bodily sensation and feelings and are able to pause and experience the felt sensation we enable a shift. Tools such as breathing or movement can support in self regulation as we lean onto the body as an anchor.

 

For example, a simple and quick way for self regulation whilst experiencing anxiety is to hug ourselves, with one hand under the armpit and to exhale towards the ground. It shift from sensations of anxiety, dizziness and distress to a sensation of grounding, focus and well being.

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New conscious somatic experience is empowering and are the polarity to the familiar immobilized helplessness sensation that accompanies distress. It open doors as the individual returns to the driver seat of her life.

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The deep process of the Hero Journey, of integration between the body, the heart and its feelings, the conscious mind and the realm of the spirit  is taking place in the connection.

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It is a transformation from alone to together in a therapeutic relationship that its core intentionality is to heal. Sometimes, complex feelings relating to the past and to the main attachment parent will be re occur and I view it as a golden opportunity to heal the original wound that influence the paradigms, behaviour and all our relationships.

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It is a opportunity to choose consciously to feel good.

 

I believe in Playfulness, in joy and pleasure together with imagination that are essential parts for every child as well as adults. These are the parts where the unseen magic and healing take place. 

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The therapeutic process is a process of connection with a beginning, middle and an end, of creative dynamic parts in finding a new stable and safe realm.   Imagine a tree of life that receives good nutrition, sprouts new roots, grows and blossoms broadfully upwards as it is in mutual connection with the trees and plants and all animals and creatures in a natural ecosystem with inner and outer peace.

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At the end of the day, beyond any intervention, what is meaningful in the encounter is the connection.  The connection between the hearts.  We has our initial wound in the heart and that is the realm of our potential healing wisdom. 

 

 

Wild Geese by Mary Oliver

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You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting --
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.